![]() ![]() They won't say "gosh, thanks for that! I've learned so much about myself!." Spying is a one-way process, it's all about gathering intelligence to use against someone. ![]() So, is it ever okay to spy on your actual children? Not really. Which is really convenient for the parent. This makes it all their fault, their failings. Why can't my children trust me? It's far easier, in those situations, to put away the mirror and get out a camera, or flick through a diary, or scroll through text messages. The less savoury truth of that is that parents then have to look at their own behaviour. Which is why teenagers often force an argument because they feel that they have nothing to lose in an already heated situation – they can say how they really feel in a row. If you don't trust your child to tell you the truth, the reality is that they probably don't trust you to be able to handle the truth. What this all comes down to of course, is trust. They want evidence to back up what they already know. He argues that they know something is amiss, but they lack the confidence of their own judgment. In his excellent book, The Gift of Fear, Gavin de Becker talks about parents who plant cameras to watch their children's nannies. If only he had! He would be so much more in tune with his children's body language now and be better able to know if they were lying, without the aid of a GoPro high-definition camera. Ramsay once admitted to never changing a nappy. ![]() Second, you only plant surveillance equipment to confirm what you already know. The first rule of spying is: you never talk about it. You don't plant a camera and then admit to it. Of course, Ramsay is either joking or stupid. ![]()
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